The VA Aid and Attendance Pension is for veterans and their surviving spouses. Many of our clients do not believe they are eligible for the surviving spouse benefit because they married their husband after his military service had ended. However, the VA has no rule that the spouse had to be married to the veteran before he was discharged from the military. As long as Mom meets all of the financial and medical requirements for the VA pension, she will still qualify for the surviving spouse benefit no matter when the marriage took place. Because the rules surrounding the VA pension can be confusing and complicated, it is important to consult with an experienced elder law attorney when completing your Aid and Attendance application.